Surprising Myths About Foster Care in North Carolina

Myths About Foster Care Debunked by Children’s Home Society of North Carolina

When people first consider becoming a foster parent, they often hesitate - not because they do not care, but because they have heard myths about foster care that make it seem out of reach. At Children’s Home Society of North Carolina (CHS), we regularly hear concerns based on misinformation rather than facts.

The truth is, foster parents come from all walks of life. Many of the reasons people think they “can’t” foster simply are not true. Take a closer look at some of the most common myths about foster care in North Carolina—and the reality behind them.

Myth: You Have to Be Married to Be a Foster Parent

False.

There is no marital requirement to become a foster parent in North Carolina. Foster parents can be single, married, divorced, widowed, separated, or cohabitating. What matters most is your ability to provide a safe, stable, and nurturing home.

Myth: I’m Too Old—or Too Young—to Foster

False.

The primary age requirement is that foster parents must be at least 21 years old. People of many ages become excellent foster parents, bringing different strengths, life experiences, and perspectives to children in care.

Myth: You Must Have Children of Your Own

False.

You do not need to have biological or adopted children to foster. Many foster parents do not have children of their own and provide loving, supportive homes for children entering foster care for the first time.

Myth: You Must Own a Home to Foster

False. Foster parents may rent or own their homes. Apartments, townhomes, and single‑family homes can all be approved, as long as there is adequate bedroom space and each child has their own bed.

Myth: LGBTQ+ Individuals Can’t Be Foster Parents

False.

Sexual orientation or gender identity does not disqualify someone from becoming a foster parent. CHS welcomes diverse families who can provide safety, stability, and care.

Myth: My Faith (or Lack of Faith) Is a Barrier

False.

Foster parents come from many religious backgrounds - or none at all. During the licensing process, CHS looks at how families can support a child’s cultural and religious identity, not whether they practice a specific faith.

If you’ve recognized yourself in any of these myths, you are not alone—and you’re not disqualified. In fact, many of today’s foster parents once believed the same things before learning the truth. Foster care is not about fitting into a narrow definition of family; it is about being able to offer safety, stability, and care when a child needs it most.

If you have ever assumed fostering was not an option for you, this may be the moment to take a second look. Learning the facts can turn uncertainty into possibility—and open the door to making a real difference in a child’s life.